Saturday, January 29, 2011

The 100/0 Principle

What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
  • STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
  • STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
  • STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
  • STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.

An Excerpt from
The 100/0 Principle
by Al Ritter

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Coach Sez -
Make 2011 the best year ever.
Let me help you get to the next level.
Meet me at a Panera Bread in Richmond.
I'll buy you a cup of coffee and we can talk
about how I can help you get more of what you
want out of life.

Check out  http://www.wilsonmotivational.com/
E-mail - JimWilson@WilsonMotivational.com

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Believe it and you will see it!!!

Napoleon Hill
Being a better you in the New Year!

Here we go again with Napoleon Hill.
17 Principles of Success
by Anonymous on September 27, 2009

In 1908, Napoleon Hill was commissioned by billionaire industrialist Andrew Carnegie to interview over 500 of the world’s most powerful men in order construct a “success philosophy.” Over a span of 20 years, he assembled the data from these interviews into 15 principles that could be used by anyone in the general population to make progress in their lives.

He checked 15 of these principles with Andrew Carnegie time and time again until he had enough readiness to write his first book featuring these principles. This book was called “The Law of Success” and it was published in 1928. After the first edition, he added two additional principles to the list which were already vicariously described in the first and last chapter of the book.

 These 17 principles of success are important because they can be used by anyone to achieve any goal that they aspire to. This has been proven because millions of people have put these principles into action and benefited from them even in cases when they weren’t aware of the principles themselves.

 The best way to benefit from these principles is to make them a part of your daily routine. You won’t gain much if you try a few of them once or twice and then revert back to the opposing habits that cancel them out. This is the reason why all of them are presented as habits that are to be mastered gradually over time.

 The 17 Principles of Success by Napoleon Hill
  1. Definiteness of Purpose – The habit of focusing your actions and thoughts on one high and desirable goal in life  
  2. Mastermind Alliance – The habit of working in complete harmony with others for the attainment of a specific objective  
  3. Going the Extra Mile – The habit of doing more than is required of you with the expectation of receiving greater compensation from direct or vicarious sources  
  4. Applied Faith – The habit of acting as if you already have what you want in life  
  5. Pleasing Personality – The habit of being generally agreeable and friendly with people  
  6. Personal Initiative – The habit of starting tasks that are important to you and seeing them through to completion  
  7. Positive Mental Attitude – The habit of looking for the positive side of every situation in life—especially during times of turmoil and adversity  
  8. Enthusiasm – The habit of keeping yourself energized by focusing your life on what you love most  
  9. Self-Discipline – The habit of choosing not to make negative choices that will cost you more than you gain  
  10. Accurate Thinking – The habit of making decisions and forming opinions that are based on factual information and tangible evidence  
  11. Controlled Attention – The habit of prioritizing your time and energy to stay focused on what is most important and beneficial
  12. Teamwork – [Basically the same as the Mastermind Alliance principle]
  13. Learning from Adversity and Defeat – The habit of learning from adversity and defeat and making gradual improvements because of those experiences
  14. Creative Vision – The habit of visualizing the things that you want most and the actions that will help you to acquire them
  15. Maintenance of Sound Health – The habit of keeping your energy level up by eating healthy food and participating in physical exercise
  16. Budgeting of Time and Money – The habit of taking time everyday to move closer to your definite major purpose and saving money to ensure steady financial growth
  17. Cosmic Habit force – The habit of repeating desirable thought patterns and behaviors until they become effortless and self-moving
 3 Tips for Using the 17 Principles of Success  
  1. Keep in the mind that the first four principles are said to be the most prominent and will likely give you the fastest results.
  2. It is also helpful to know that you can easily ingrain each of these principles into your personality by mastering one principle in your daily life per week in a sequential fashion.  
  3. Most interesting of all, you can mix any of these principles together to create a concept that is even more powerful. Look through these principles again and use your imagination to figure out what two principles would change your life the fastest if you combined them and put them into action today. To start you off, you could combine the “Going the Extra Mile” principle with the “Definite Major Purpose” principle.
Take action...
Print this article and put it next to your goals for 2011. Are your goals congruent with Hill's 17 principles.

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Coach Sez -
Make 2011 the best year ever.
Let me help you get to the next level.
Meet me at a Panera Bread in Richmond.
I'll buy you a cup of coffee and we can talk
about how I can help you get more of what you
want out of life.

Check out  http://www.wilsonmotivational.com/
E-mail - JimWilson@WilsonMotivational.com

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Goal setting for 2011

2011
Welcome to the New Year.

It's that time to write down your Goals for 2011.

Business and Personal plans deserve your attention now with specific goals set for each.

Yes, I said each.

Laura Posey, CEO and Co-Founder of Dancing Elephants Achievement Group writes... Here's a few of my best reasons to make time in the next two weeks to get a plan done.

Focus Changes Everything

Having a plan forces you to decide where to focus your time, energy and money in the coming year. Focus is the force that drives all things to greater power and success. An unfocused stream of light creates a gentle illumination while a focused stream creates a laser beam capable of cutting through any obstacle. An unfocused team of rowers wanders around the water, while a focused team can conquer any ocean.

Writing Goals Down Changes Your Brain

For years, scientists have known that the act of writing things down changes the way they are stored in your brain. That’s why you had to spend so much time in school writing out your multiplication tables, etc. Writing your plan plants seeds in your subconscious that can dramatically increase your likelihood of achieving. Even if you fall short of your ultimate goals, you’ll likely far exceed what you would have accomplished had you not bothered to plan.

Planning Doesn’t Have To Be Hard

When I ask people why they don’t have a plan, many tell me they don’t have time to write a huge plan and, even if they did, they probably wouldn’t use it anyway. It is just to easy to go back to winging it as real life deviates from what you planned. Proper planning doesn’t have to take tons of time or result in the death of a hundred trees. You can create a complete annual plan in just 20 minutes and use only one sheet of paper. Best of all, the plan you create will be flexible enough to accommodate changes in the economy and your business as the year progresses. A plan shouldn’t be a prison but rather guardrails on the highway to your goals.

Laura Posey http://www.dancingelephants.net/

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Coach Sez -
Make 2011 the best year ever.
Let me help you get to the next level.
Meet me at a Panera Bread in Richmond.
I'll buy you a cup of coffee and we can talk 
about how I can help you get more of what you 
want out of life.

Check out   http://www.wilsonmotivational.com/
E-mail - JimWilson@WilsonMotivational.com